Saturday, December 17, 2016

Did You Lead This Year by Walking BOTH Roads?


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Unless you’re a zillionaire, you probably had both good and bad days this year. Then again, I guess zillionaires have their bad days. Like when their G-6 jet won’t start or someone thoughtlessly scratches the yacht (I hate when that happens. . . awfully inconvenient that!). But as my habit of using December to REFLECT and January to PLAN, I have been thinking out loud about how as leaders we have to “walk both roads” of, as Jimmy Buffet sings, “good days and bad days and going half-mad days!”

I have often said that anyone can be a successful leader. That is, it’s easy to lead when everything is going your way and things come easy. True leadership, transformational leadership, however, comes when you lead yourself and others through tough times. I bet you are a transformational leader as opposed to one that blame others when things don’t work out (that’s a prerogative that seems to be reserved exclusively for politicians and celebrities these days!). In fact, I know you don’t cut and run when things get hard! You just square up your shoulders and step forward into the whirlwind of life. Just remember sometimes you will end up in the pleasant suburbs of Liferockesistan and other days smack in the middle of downtown Thissucksville! You’ll just have to let go of the baggage that no longer serves you and enjoy the sights along the way.

To be honest 2016 was a challenging year for me. But it was also a time of great growth. I learned so much in the books I finally got to read, the great people that I got to meet, and the experiences I have had. I have learned a lot about myself too and what I still need to work on.

So even if 2016 was not your best year either, just remember you are still above ground and walking tall (or in my case, more like 5’9” on a good day)! Take encouragement in Tennyson’s words of King Odysseus in his later years, “Though much is taken, much abides; and though we are not now that strength in old days moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are; one equal temper of heroic hearts, made weak by time and fate, but strong in WILL to STRIVE, To FIND, and NOT to Yield. “

So, don’t yield and take the good with the bad like a champ! You’re not done yet . . . not by a long shot! Besides, your people now and the people you have yet to lead need you to help them walk both roads too! You see at the end of the day there is just no avoiding it and the best leaders have mastered the art of leading when its easy and when leadership gets tough. It is my fervent hope and prayer 2017 will be your best year yet. But just in case you do hit a bump or two in the road, when people ask you how you are doing, just tell them “fine and dandy” (but inside, proudly proclaim . . . “and still walking both roads”!).

Many thanks to those who supported Out Loud Strategies and this blog this year. Due to your support I had the opportunity to speak in front of several large groups and a couple of my postings reached over 100 and 200 views! I hope I have added value to you and I look forward to what I can share in 2017! As always if I can help you and the people you associate with Get Better, Be Ready and LEAD OUT LOUD, I would invite you to email me or to visit my website below and see if any of the training or coaching experiences I offer can provide an impact! Also, as a bonus, if you go to my Out Loud Strategies website (www.outloudinc.com) and enter your contact information, I will send you a FREE guide to establishing a mentoring initiative program in your organization! Such an initiative would be critical to add value to your organization!

Yours in Leadership (and still walking both roads!),

Bill Faulkner

Principal Consultant – Out Loud Strategies

Independent Coach, Speaker, and Trainer with the John Maxwell Team TM

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Sunday, December 11, 2016

Your Best 5 Minutes this Week!


Being a positive person in cynical world is not easy! Everything from news stories to entertainment works to bring you down. Besides, trying to be up-beat around your grouchy family and friends really irritates them (though I admit to secretly enjoying their discomfort!). This has got me thinking out loud about why more people are not as happy or as satisfied with their lives as they should be. I recently completed a 5-minute exercise that just may help!

First, I believe the reason we do not feel as good about ourselves as we should is all based on messages we receive from advertising, media and the entertainment industry. Advertisers know that nothing works like envy! In other words, if you do not drive a certain car, wear certain clothes, look a certain way, have a certain life style, drink a certain beer, etc. then somehow you are “less than”. The way to become “better than”, therefore, is to use or buy that particular product or live a certain way. I call this “the Big Lie”. You see advertisers and the media know that everyone has a soft spot in our armor and they exploit that. The result is we spend time, energy, and money chasing something that really does not exist. Seriously, does anyone understand a perfume or cologne commercial?!

Truly we live in an unencouraging world. In fact, leadership expert and author John Maxwell often states that one of the primary jobs of leaders is to encourage others. In light of John’s great advice, I want to lead you by encouraging you to take 5 Minutes to encourage YOURSELF. Adopting a powerful exercise from Jim Loehr’s grate book, The Only Way to Win, I want you to take 5 minutes to think about yourself. I know that sounds weird in that most people rarely do so. Regardless, I want you to take 5 minutes to think and then write about YOUR BEST SELF. In other words, list those things about yourself that you are most proud of in terms of:
  • Accomplishments
  • Character Strengths
  • Values
  • Relationships
  • Skills
  • Abilities
  • Attempts
  • Challenges You Overcome
  • What You Have Built
  • What You Still Want to DO!

The only rule is that you cannot stop until you use the entire 5 minutes (or 10 if you are feeling particularly generous about yourself!). I did this very exercise this week and it was incredibly powerful in that just like everyone else, I have times of self-doubt. The problem becomes when we dwell on the negatives, it diminishes are effectiveness in work and life. Confidence (as opposed to arrogance) is an impact multiplier!

I will also grant you that doing this was not as easy as it sounds because we live in a world that does easily let us feel good about ourselves. But here’s the thing, you need to stop second guessing your own worth and value. You need to listen to YOUR BEST SELF more than the Itty Bitty Critical Committee that often lives in your head! If you still find it difficult to complete this exercise, then contact me and let’s see if I can help.

As always if I can help you and the people you associate with Get Better, Be Ready and LEAD OUT LOUD, I would invite you to email me or to visit my website below and see if any of the training or coaching experiences I offer can provide an impact! Also, as a bonus, if you go to my Out Loud Strategies website (www.outloudinc.com) and enter your contact information, I will send you a FREE guide to establishing a mentoring initiative program in your organization! Such an initiative would be critical to add value to your organization!

Yours in Leadership,

Bill Faulkner

Principal Consultant – Out Loud Strategies

Independent Coach, Speaker, and Trainer with the John Maxwell Team TM

Email = bill@outloudinc.com

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Sunday, December 4, 2016

A “When I . . .” life is no life at all!


Recently I read a story about Jill Costello in Jim Loehr’s great book, The Only Way to Win. Jill was a coxswain on the UC-Berkley rowing team who found out she had Stage IV lung cancer at the end of her Junior year. This was obviously a remarkable diagnosis for a non-smoking 21-year-old who also so happened to be a peak athlete but was more remarkable was her courage and grace in dealing with her disease. Featured in the November, 2010 issue of Sports Illustrated, she stated, “Your life is happening right now and this is the only moment you can control. This is the only minute that really matters. If you are dwelling on something that happened in the past or feeling anxious about the future, you are missing out on your life”. Such a profound insight got me thinking out loud that too many of us are leading a “When I . . . “ life!
Your life is happening right now and this is the only moment you can control. This is the only minute that really matters. If you are dwelling on something that happened in the past or feeling anxious about the future, you are missing out on your life. - Jill Costello

I have often written about the danger of waiting for some life event to happen before you get on with your life. This creates a “When I . . .” mindset.
When I get a promotion . . .
When I find the right person . . .
When I move to a new location . . .
When I get into shape . . .
When I earn that next degree . . .
When I . . .
When I . . .
(equally troubling and unproductive is the past tense, “If I had just . . . .”!)

Now don’t get me wrong, it is imperative that we set life changing goals for ourselves and work hard to achieve them. The problem is when these can also become life delaying goals where we miss out on our life that is happening now while we are waiting on the one we are hoping for! Just think of the relationships, experiences, learning, and development we can be having NOW just because we are waiting on something better?!?!

I have heard it said that yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery; thus, today is a present! Today is truly a gift so what will you do with it? How will you spend it? I encourage you to take joy in the minute whenever you can. Don’t forget to lose focus on what is right in front of you while you are looking ahead. I bet you will be surprised about all the great stuff that you can experience in the here and now versus the there and then!

As always if I can help you and the people you associate with Get Better, Be Ready and LEAD OUT LOUD, I would invite you to email me or to visit my website below and see if any of the training or coaching experiences I offer can provide an impact! Also, as a bonus, if you go to my Out Loud Strategies website (www.outloudinc.com) and enter your contact information, I will send you a FREE guide to establishing a mentoring initiative program in your organization! Such an initiative would be critical to add value to your organization!

Yours in Leadership,

Bill Faulkner

Principal Consultant – Out Loud Strategies

Independent Coach, Speaker, and Trainer with the John Maxwell Team TM

Email = bill@outloudinc.com

Visit our website at: www.outloudinc.com


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