Sunday, October 7, 2018

The ONLY thing your poor leadership gets you is talked about!



When I share what I do with other people, inevitably I get the “let me tell you about my horrible boss” stories. They go on to tell me not only is their supervisor a bad boss, but they are not a very good person with absolutely NO redeeming characteristics. Since I usually hear about other aspects of an individual’s personal or professional life when their boss is great at best or tolerable at least, it gets me thinking out loud that the ONLY thing poor leadership gets you is talked about!

According to workplace studies completed by the Ken Blanchard company, 70% of reported stress in the environment is attributed to someone’s supervisor. That is just amazing to me. Of all the things that can cause us stress on the job – deadlines, insufficient resources, co-workers, etc. – all of that pales in comparison to the stress an individual in authority can place on another.

That is why a big part of my purpose and mission in life is to teach valuable leadership lessons now that produce leaders for life – both in duration and quality! It amazes me that we have access to more leadership resources, speakers, books, podcasts, videos, assessments, systems, curriculums, and trainings are we are still not moving the needle fast enough or far enough to make our workplaces more humane and productive. You see when you take care of the first, the second quickly follows.

If you are a leader and the only indication of your impact is how badly someone complains about you to others, then you have some work to do. I can speak from personal experience on this since there was a time in my career when I made many leadership mistakes in this arena. Don’t get me wrong, I still make plenty of mistakes, but I at least have tried very hard to not repeat the ones that address how I treat and value others.

Let’s assume you have some kind of indication that your leadership is not what is should be. Your people are complaining, they have stopped coming to you for guidance, and they are just going through the motions albeit in a very grumpy bear fashion. If that is the case, you may want to ask some dichotomous questions.

Do you lead out of fear or respect?
I know there have been many decisions that I have made that my team did not agree with, but they usually respected my decision because they were not fearful of expressing their opinion. They knew that often I would go with their decisions and ideas but sometimes as a leader we have to make the tough call. If you have built up “leadership credits” with team members because they know you respect them, they will respect you. They know you have set up a “safe” environment where ideas are heard without censure, respectful disagreements are tolerated, and there is mutual respect all around. Only insecure people lead from fear, only the most underserving of the title of leader enjoy it.

Do you desire compliance or commitment?
In today’s work environment where situations occur quickly, and departures happen all to frequently, I will take commitment over compliance any day of the week. Further, I would much rather have a team member who is not as technically competent, yet, but is “all in” when it comes to the values, mission, and vision of your enterprise. As a leader, you have to decide what you are willing to train someone to do as opposed to what you want them to bring “factory equipped.” Someone who is merely in compliance mode is just giving you compliance quality work. They are not innovating, stretching, or adding value. Instead, they are just waiting around for you to tell them what to do and then merely complying with your wishes. Just think of how bigger, better, or more profitable your enterprise could be if you unleash the talent of those around you versus trying to just control it.

Do you lead on codes or covenants?
I once had the opportunity work with an incredible leader who was acting as a temporary chief academic officer of a college where I was working. One day he shared a quick comparative analysis of Earnest Hemmingway and William Faulkner (the real author!). He provided an insight that if you look at Hemmingway’s novels, they are very masculine filled with male characters who live by a code, die by a code, fight by a code, and love by a code. These “man codes” are so self-ingrained in the characters that they cannot imagine living any other way and have little tolerance for those that do.

In Faulkner’s novels, however, the characters lead their lives by strong covenants. Commitments and agreements, they make with others even after they have passed away These covenants capture strong moral “magnetic norths” that inform their lives but allow for flexibility versus unyielding “road maps” that do not allow for any deviation to see if a better route or a better world is just over the next hill.

I understand in today’s litigious environment, as leaders we are often encouraged to lead by strict codes. Codes that dictate a strict legalism in our work where deviation is frowned upon and what is fair or right is dictated by a manual. When we lead by covenants, however, it is not that we ignore the rules, rather we supersede them because whereas it is easy to break a rule or a code, it is much harder to break a promise or a covenant! When leaders and team members make a promise or covenant to treat each other with respect, that we would never bully or harass someone, or that we will value individual and group differences, we do not need rules to dictate our behaviors because we do more than the minimum, we live by maximizing others!

Robert Greenleaf, the father of Servant Leadership, shares that the best indicator of whether or not you are a leader worth of being followed is when the people around you are happier, wiser, stronger, and more fulfilled. It is all a matter a focus. As writher and pastor Andy Stanley shares, when your leadership is just about you, it will last long enough to be someone’s bad example. When your leadership is all about others, it will last forever.

That kind of leadership gets you talked about, but in a very, very good way for a very long time!

As always if I can help you and the people you associate with Get Better, Be Ready and LEAD OUT LOUD, I invite you to visit my website below and see if any of the training or coaching experiences I offer can provide an impact.

If you want to know more about leading with intention, I would direct you to Leading Out Loud: Strategies for Raising Your Leadership Voice! available on Amazon.com. I would also be happy to share the full NEXT LEVEL LEADERS training resources with you or your organization or personally coach you through the process. Please feel free to contact me for a no obligation inquiry.

Yours in leadership,

Bill Faulkner
Principal Consultant – Out Loud Strategies
Independent Coach, Speaker, and Trainer with the John Maxwell Team TM

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